We have a ‘baraat’ when the guy’s family comes to the girl’s family. Then there is the ‘nikah’. Then people eat, and then the bride goes to her husband’s house in a decorated car. Then a day or two later there is the ‘valima’ and that’s it. Yes, sometimes we have a 'mehndi' before the baraat, in which we put mehndi on the girl’s hand and sing songs.
Now, the colleague I was talking to, she is from Balochistan and gosh, they actually put up a red curtain for the bride, in which the to-be bride is supposed to sit. Curtain is put up in the corner of the room creating a triangle, and she’s supposed to stay there till the wedding for about a week or two. No man is allowed to see her at that time, not even her father or brothers. She’s not allowed to go anywhere or do anything. And after the wedding she’s supposed to come back with her husband and stay there behind the curtain one night. The next day she’s allowed to go to her husband’s place.
Tell me about your area or country’s different wedding cultures, this should be interesting.
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ok nope...im from chennai...and thats how our wedding are too...we have a haldi before the mehndi though...where the guy's family comes home with gifts for the girl(thats when they bring the shaadi ka joda) and the very same day the girls family goes to the guys place with gifts...and the valima (most of the time) is on the very next days after the nikah.....
but woah!! red curtain and all!!good god! thats gotta be hard!
asi tay punjabi tehray... but we are arayein!! although i don't know much, but our weddings are very long and very intersting... and laina daina toh waisey hi bohat ziyada... first the date is finalled, then the girl's family sends a Big PARAAT(a straight plate) of khoya on which they put badaam in the form of date, they right the date with badaam and send it to the boy's home, and then the guys family distributes with in the family....
after that mehndi happens which are of two types combine bhi hoti hai and separte, the boy and girl both get mehndi on their hand and ubtan(something yellow don't know how to explain :p) naah not the guy, guy doesn't get ubtan on his face, just he has a note in his hand and they put mehndi in his hair and on the note and sweets in his face :p ... and we have lots of dances, dholki gana bajana....
After that barat, like you said... its the same... and the next day is usually walima... and oh in baraat when the girl goes she throws rice behind....
i love paki weddings... they are fun :D
drama queen: For us, the dress is given after the baraat only, because the baraat's dress is chosen by the girl's family, only the valima dress is chosen by the guy.
Yea, I know I'd go crazy staying behind the curtain with no contact. :o
Ubaid: Arayein? What's that?
Yea, in the mehndi, the same thing happens the guy and girl both get mehndi, but we don't usually have the ubtan thing, though I do know what ubtan is. :p
But that badaam thing doesn't happen in my family or at least I don't know about it. :P
weddings in our family are exactly the same way as in urs ... we are anti-rasm people :D
This red curtain sounds fun ;)
and ubaid .. larkay ki family kiya bhejti hay after date setting :P ya sirf khati hi hay ;)
@Siras
i think its called CAST (arayein, sheikh, rajhpoot, khokhar etc) ....
yeah i didn't knew about it too just found out this time when i saw my cousin got it on his wedding :p
@Asma
haan gee, woh kha laitay hain, but they send a paraat with a joda and gold bangles... and larki ka hissa of the mithai!!
Oye, where does the Balochi to-be-bride poop?
Asma: *High five* :D
Oh yea, a lot of fun if you want to suffocate. :P
Ubaid:Uh, okay, so how do I know what cast I am?
Snivelly: Don't worry Snivelly, that's the one thing she's allowed to do, use the washroom. :P
But in some of the families she's supposed to wrap the curtain around her and go, or someone else is supposed to sit in her place while she's not there. :o
ask your parents :p
I don't get it. In some families, someone else poop's for her? :o
Ubaid: And they'll think I've lost my mind. :P
Snivelly: Oh silly you! Someone else sits in her place behind the curtain while she's away. :p
We're Balochs... but not really Balochs :S Since nothing of this sort happens in our weddings. Our weddings are more like Punjabi weddings... probably because we reside in Punjab (:
lolz @ senilius :D
I'm a baloch and the curtain custom is bearable considering the fact that our culture doesn't have jahez system and most of the kharcha is done by the groom. :P
The curtain is actually "jul" and the custom is called 'julbandi'. The reason elders give is that if people don't see the girl for a couple of days, she'll look more appealing as a bride. Unfortunately, I do not know the origin of it.
i have only attended one marriage in my life; it was in march this year. so i do not really have any insight into the subject. i think marriages in our family are arranged the same way as in yours...
lolz @ caveliere ... one marriage all life :S
poocho naah, key whats your cast, there is nothing wrong in asking that!!
@ Asma
*embarrassed smiley*
momal: Ah, okay. :)
Hina: Thanks for explaining it to me. :)
Yes, that does make sense. :)
Welcome to my blog. :)
Cavaliere: Join the club, I have also attended only one wedding, that too my sister's. Unless u count my khala's wedding when i was 6 months old and my mamoo's wedding when I was two.
But then when we girls get together we do talk about such stuff that gives a teensy weensy bit of insight. :P
Ubaid: Yeah, I did ask. We're Sheikhs.
from where i come from the groom has to carry his bride once they arrive in their home :D
which is sorta romantic!
Aww, that is terribly romantic actually. :D
me too punjabi.
me too sheikh.
I have also attended only one wedding, that too my sister's.
i dont attend weddings n my mother is always angry with me for this. she says "i'm afraid, will you attend your own marriage or not? " :D
This is more my mothers department. Three of my brothers have been married, but I forget the rasuumaat every time! :s
nick: Hehe, cool. :D
LOL! Yea, make sure you attend your wedding o. :P
Absar: LOL! You're just 25, your memory shouldn't be that bad. :P
wow tusi sheikh ho, sheikh kanjoos hotay hain :p
liked ADs idea .. rest had boring tales ;)
Ubaid: :P
Asma: I liked AD's idea too. :D
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